Relationships and Your Calling

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be


Proverbs 13:20 NKJV

Sometimes in life, we do not rise to our gifts and potential; we unfortunately only rise to the level of our relationships and systems. Our gifts, potential, and brilliance are not enough to fulfill God’s call on our lives. However, we need people and the right relationships. Take David, for example. He was a man after God’s own heart, but he would not have ascended to the throne without the help of Jonathan.

Relationships are critical to living the life God intends for us. It is said, “If you want to go fast in life, go alone, but if you want to go far, go with people.” But we cannot just go with any people. We must go with the right kind of people. God’s model for creation is interdependency. Who has what you need? Who knows what you need to know? Who has succeeded in the area of your calling? How can you leverage their experience to your advantage?

Build strong relationships around people with a similar calling as yours. At the age of 12, Jesus was already sitting in the temple with the Rabbi, learning and asking questions. Our associations often give us a preview of our destiny. Samson could have accomplished much more for God. He could have killed more Philistines in the war before his premature death, but the relationships he kept were not aligned with furthering his purpose.

Moses had a call to set the Israelites free from the land of bondage, but he had a stuttering problem (Exodus 4:10 NKJV). However, his lack of eloquent speech did not invalidate his call. God gave him a helper, Aaron, who would speak on his behalf. Other people’s gifts should complement our for us to succeed in our area of calling. Even Jesus needed 12 disciples to be successful in His ministry.

We should be selective of our associations and choose them unapologetically. It is not the number of friends we have that counts. But the quality of the relationships matter.


Reassess your circle of friends today and be committed to making sure your inner circle is helping you achieve your life’s purpose.


Father God, give me the strength and wisdom to let go of all toxic relationships in my life. Send me the right people to help me fulfill Your purpose for my life in Jesus’ Name.

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